If you count back to last Friday, this has been an incredibly long week. So much stuff has happened, you guys. I’m freaking drained. It’s mostly because… um… I’m unsure what I want out of my professional life right now

But let’s not dwell. These are the times when I need a good pop song. Today I reached for “As Cool As I Am,” a nugget of gold recorded by folk-rocker Dar Williams in 1996.

Here’s the super-cute video. Dar’s happy jumping dance gives me joy.

And look… I’m not a woman. But I still love the idea of this song… that Dar isn’t going to blame women for her feelings about men. The decision to let go of negative feelings is always empowering, because it’s easy to get used to them, you know? Once you start thinking badly about something, or someone, or yourself, you can convince yourself that you must think that way. You can believe that your negative thoughts are natural.

But really, almost all our thoughts are habitual. And when we remember that, we have the power to make new habits. Unless we suffer from chronic depression or something, we can replace a negative pattern with a positive one. We can stop being afraid of women, if you will.

And that realization deserves a jumping dance and some sassy didgeridoo.

I’ll stop with the Deepak Chopra, but that’s what the song says to me.

Also, it’s just tons of fun. Dar Williams’ recent albums are more reflective than celebratory–like her beautiful new record Promised Land–but those early releases, with songs like “Allelulia” and “The Christians and the Pagans” and “Better Things,” can cure the blues in a Yankee minute.